Tag archives: relationships

In the Pursuit of Equity
By Dan Meisel   |   December 21, 2021

I previously wrote in this space about how only recognizing perspectives “for” or “against” an issue can get in the way of understanding and potentially resolving conflicting views. The recently heightened polarity around discussing race and bias in school classrooms is a prime example. We are seeing advocates frame debates in ways more likely to […]

Loving Your ‘Lurps’: New Book Offers Breakthrough
By Steven Libowitz   |   December 7, 2021

Radhule Weininger’s new book, Heart Medicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom — at Last, features a brief forward by the Dalai Lama and another longer, more personal one from colleague Joanna Macy, the prolific author, environmental activist, and half-century-plus scholar of Buddhism. Additional pre-publication praise has come from locally beloved […]

Let’s Talk Tips for challenging conversations in a divided community (or household)
By Dan Meisel   |   December 7, 2021

Public speaking is a commonly held fear, but I have noticed a dramatic rise in fear of speaking privately – particularly with those whom we love and respect, but also disagree. Local conversations about school bonds, water, masks, racism, elections, and conspiracies escalate with unnerving speed and ferocity, as if all these issues are connected […]

Happy Relationship Day! A Time to Reflect on Our Precious Connections
By Rinaldo Brutoco   |   February 18, 2021

Ah yes… Valentine’s Day is here. Commercially, it’s a very successful day because merchants have historically used this “hearts and flowers” day to sell lots of sugary red hearts and flowers. And, having grown up as a Catholic, I’ve always experienced a certain sadness from learning how St. Valentine was beheaded for sending a note […]

Dear Montecito: Shaye Grant
By Stella Haffner   |   December 24, 2020

We’ve heard from a variety of different perspectives in this column, giving us a sense of how each person’s relationship with their hometown changed after heading off into the bigger world. We’ve heard from Clay Rodgers, whose relationship with Montecito and his music career was complicated by natural disasters. We’ve heard from Julia Kupiec, who […]

New Book by Jennifer Freed
By Kelly Mahan Herrick   |   January 9, 2020

Montecito resident Dr. Jennifer Freed has released her 9th book, titled Use Your Planets Wisely: Master Your Ultimate Cosmic Potential with Psychological Astrology. The book, which is available locally and online, is the culmination of over 30 years of Dr. Freed’s work, in which she teaches how a person’s astrology can set the tone for […]

Men Versus Women
By Bob Hazard   |   September 19, 2019

Ever since Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden of Eden for taking a bite out of the “Big Apple,” men and women have been arguing over who is smarter, stronger, and the most trustworthy. So, let’s examine some of those traits. Intelligence Men and women seem to be equal in general intelligence (IQ […]

Healer Stokes Fires of Self-awareness and Relationships
By Steven Libowitz   |   June 28, 2018

Nearly everyone has a relationship they’d like to, ahem, adjust, perhaps wrangling with a romantic partner, sorting out sibling situations, still feeling frustration over family foibles, or maybe handling conflict with a co-worker. But transforming relationships starts with making changes in ourselves, says Crystal Stokes, who has offered transpersonal/spiritual psychology and coaching in Santa Barbara […]

Avenue Q – a Road to Inner Freedom
By Steven Libowitz   |   March 15, 2018

Nearly all the spiritual traditional and psychological systems suggest that suffering comes from how we interpret our experiences. Life is always going to have painful moments – but it’s what we make them mean that determines our level of inner happiness on anguish. There are many paths that aim to help humans alleviate the symptoms […]

Entheo-Expert Returns to Town
By Steven Libowitz   |   March 1, 2018

I really can’t recall how many time shivers ran up and down my spine as I talked with Martin W. Ball last weekend about his upcoming talk at Unity of Santa Barbara this Saturday, March 2, when Ball – one of the world’s leading experts and proponents of entheogenic/psychedelic medicines and an authority on the […]